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Swinging or, "the lifestyle," as we often refer to it with each other (sometimes indicated by a black ring on the right ring finger for those who like to advertise their proclivity), is one subculture among many with countless variations and expressions. Let me back up for a sec. Swinging, which falls under the non-monogamy umbrella, means swapping partners or playing with your own partner while others play nearby. It can happen between couples you already know or couples you meet specifically with the intention of swinging. Some people have trouble relating to the idea that sex could be an ephemeral expression of self where people come together for mutual pleasure without emotional entanglement.

So what is the swinging lifestyle all about? It's is a form of recreational sex between consenting adults, usually between two heterosexual couples or between a couple and a single female or male. Many couples find the thought of having sex with other people arousing and so swinging lifestyle sex can be a catalyst for improving their sex life and relationship.

There are people who argue that becoming swingers will improve your sex life while introducing you to new people. For some people, this is certainly true. However, without trust and communication in your marriage, swinging is going to cause more harm than good. We’ve curated this list of frequently asked questions about swinging to give you a glimpse into the lifestyle. 

We always experience tremendous personal growth when we get sexually and intimately close to others. It deepens your understanding of yourself and forces you to communicate with your partner or partners in a way a monogamous relationship never would. Well, a lot of the issues are the same. Jealousy is a big issue in relationships across the board. We tend to think of it as a poly issue but often there is even more jealousy in monogamous relationships.
Poly people are certainly open to the idea of multiple-partner marriage but it is not a high priority in swinger club sex. Due to employment discrimination and the need to be closeted other rights issues tend to be more important than marriage rights. At the moment we are just beginning the process of trying to be visible.

People are so unused to the idea of polyamory that it makes them uncomfortable and causes them to ostracize friends, family, and loved ones who do come out as poly. Sharing wife with another man also means everyone benefits from having another perspective — an objective viewpoint when it comes to decisions or any conflict that may arise while wife sharing. Each one of us became a mediator at different times in the relationship.